Thursday, June 12, 2008

"Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want."
--Guy on the Oprah Show
I'm getting my fair share of experience lately... :)

13 comments:

likeschocolate said...

I didn't have a picture perfect childhood and it came with many trials; however, I am not sure if you can ever be prepared for the trials that come ones way. Does this make sense. Though as I sit here, maybe having the gospel makes it just a little easier to deal with the challenges. This past year I gave birth to a son who has a birth defect. Thankfully, he was able to have surgery and is doing well. People asked me, "I don't know how you stayed so strong." I did shed tears, but I think it was the gospel that helped me through. I know that Heavenly Father loves me. I know he loves you. I am sorry that you have to go through such ruff times right now. Wishing you all the best a blog stalker sitting in Switzerland with nothing to do

Nikki (Have Joy) said...

Thank you so much for your comment. Trials come in so many shapes and sizes, and having a knowledge of the gospel definitely allows us to see things from a more eternal perspective. Thank you for sharing a piece of your story...hope to hear from you more.

Lauren and Tyson Fiala said...

Nik, I love reading your blog!Your strength is amazing and I am proud to be your friend. Reading about your friend Erik really made me realizes all the things I need to be grateful for and thank my Heavenly Father for on a daily basis. What a sad situation. I hope you and the girls are doing well.

Paige said...

Nik, bring on the other blog! You're some kind of writing maniac: blogs, books...what's next?

..Kris Naven.. said...

Ok, I love reading you blog, and my lil' man Elliott has such a crush on Taylon! He calls her his girlfriend! We have watched that "This Ain't No Twinkle Twinkle" like 50 million times! He has it memorized! Lol! I actually just put a post up where him and one of his friends are watching it on the computer and singing and dancing to it! Way cute! I wish I could have gotten to know you better in our old ward, but when I was on bedrest for so long we never got the chance to! Just wanted to let you know that I love reading your blog, and that you truly are an inspiration. I think making a new blog too would be wonderful. Take care!

Love Always,
Kris

Nikki (Have Joy) said...

AHAHAH KRIS!! That is so funny! I just watched the video on your blog...awesome. I'm glad Elliott is getting some good use out of that video. I'll let Taylen know she's got a cyber-boyfriend :). Thanks for your post!

Laura said...

Hi Nikki,
I've talked to you a little bit at church, but not enough to know you at all, so I came across your blog and wanted to say hi!
I'm sorry about your friend, and you're right, life is hard and it really does suck a lot sometimes! I was having a hard time a few months ago and posted this poem on my blog, and thought you might like it, so here ya go...

DON'T QUIT

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
And the road you're on seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Author Unknown

*and for the record, I couldn't agree more with your post about divorce and failure. You've got it right, your marriage failed, not you. ;)

Nikki (Have Joy) said...

Thanks, Laura, for your post. I have heard that poem before, and it is one of my favorites. Too bad it's when things seem worst that it feels the easiest to quit! I'm glad you came across my blog...I'll go check yours out when I get the chance. Aren't you in Young Women's? That's probably why I never really see you at church. You're not in the relief society crew. :) Anyway, thanks for your post! I hope to hear more from ya.

Unknown said...

Nikki, I'm another random person that looks at your blogs. I was good friends with Rachel in High school, Meghan and Tashi are my sisters, and I think I met you once up at BYU-I when you were very pregnant with Taylen. I just wanted to let you know that I really enjoy reading your blogs, I don't know how you do what you do, but keep on doing it. I'm so sorry about your friend, it breaks my heart for his wife and kids. I can't even imagine. I just wanted you to know that another stranger is cheering for you.
Cori

Tiff and Dan said...

Nikki, I've seen your link on quite a few of my friends blogs, and I'm a stalker like many others. I'm not sure if you just have a familiar face or if we by chance did have a class together or something at Ricks or BYU...but I did know your husband. I dated a guy on the Ricks baseball team way back when. Anways, I just wanted to thank you for your posts. I am amazed at how you handle life and are so positive, and have an ability to connect and make a difference in so many people's lives. I hope you know that what you are going through really does help others. Even if my problems are not exactly the same, I still feel like I can relate to something and I feel that I want to be a better person and live the gospel more fully as I see you do it. Thanks! Tiffani

Nikki (Have Joy) said...

Cori...I do remember meeting you in Rexburg. It was at some dance show thing or something, and I was HUGELY pregnant. haha. Thanks for your post. And thanks for cheering for me :)

Tiffani, thanks for commenting! I didn't got to BYU-I, we moved there after I graduated from BYU Provo for Brad to finish school. What years were you at BYU Provo? Maybe we did have a class together or something. I'm learning it's a pretty small Mormon world :) Thanks for your sweet comment. I'm glad you can relate to things I write about, even if our challenges are different...the principles are the same for all of us, ya know? It's nice to blog meet you :), haha. Thanks again for your comment.

Anonymous said...

I drove by a truck that had the words "JUST DIVORCED" painted in the back window...

How I laughed.

It's important to celebrate all of life. The good and bad. The easy (getting married. giving trust) and the tough (divorce. loosing trust...and not letting that lose change you).

"JUST DIVORCED." it's life. life happens :)

Nikki (Have Joy) said...

I love love love this comment. I think I need a shirt that says that. Just Divorced. haha.

Life happens. You're right. Sometimes I forget that the beauty of life is that you can't control it or predict it. Life happens.

Thanks for the reminder :)